Realize we're all in the same soup Delight in your baby Cool down your conflicts Soften how you bring up a problem Accept influence : there are two sides to every fight Calm down by self-soothing Compromise The importance of repair The aftermath of a fight : process and understand it Processing a fight : deepening your understanding Unsolvable problems : move from gridlock to dialogue Savoring your friendship Heat up your sex life Add warm fathering Bake the bread of legacy