Prologue: by the children Why positive discipline? Positive discipline and your preschooler Understanding developmental appropriateness The miraculous brain : learning and development "I can do it!" : the joys (and challenges) of initiative Accepting the child you have : understanding your preschooler's temperament "Don't talk to me in that tone of voice" : emotions and the art of communication "Why does my child do that?" : the messages of misbehavior Mistaken goals at home Mistaken goals in the preschool "You can't come to my birthday party!" : social skills for preschoolers Ending bedtime battles : preschoolers and sleep "I don't like that!" : preschoolers and eating Preschoolers and potties : the ongoing saga of toilet training Selecting (and living with) child care Family and class meetings for preschoolers The world "out there" : dealing with the influence of technology and culture When your child needs special help Growing as a family : finding support, resources, and sanity Conclusion