Special topics in being a human a queer and tender guide to things I've learned the hard way about caring for people, including myself

9781551528540

271 pages : chiefly color illustrations ; 26 cm

1. How to make big decisions in a way that matches your values
2. How to tell people things they very probably won't be happy to hear, at least at first
3. How to keep firmly and everlastingly in mind that doing nothing isn't neutral
4. How to give the kind of help that helping's all about (and not the kind we all can do without)
5. How to avoid getting your upset all over other people when you feel out of control
6. How to love someone with your words, actions, and priorities (in addition to your feelings, which I'm sure are very nice)
7. How to apologize (properly, not like a Republican Congressman)
8. How to have a disagreement, or even an argument, without having a fight
9. How to be reasonably graceful when a relationship has ended, even if you feel wretched
10. How to take criticism (and how to tell what's criticism and what's just a pointless insult)
11. How to take a compliment sometimes (no one is reading your diary; we all struggle with this)
12. How to get someone's new name and/or pronouns right, every time, sooner than you think
13. How to increase a sense of safety for women and other people with marginalized genders whom you encounter in daily life
14. How to be bad at things but do them anyway
15. How to be a useful ally or co-resister to actual people whom you support
16. How to keep going when you just want more than anything to stop, for G-d's sake
17. How to be yourself

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Freedman-Lawson, Saul, illustrator