Preface: what do we do wrong with our daughters? I'll just say you aren't feeling well : making excuses/ endless explanations Of course you can drink when you're home with me : lacking boundaries and rules What color would you like in that Prada bag? : indulging daughters materially/fostering entitlement If you tried, you'd look that good too : overemphasizing beauty Do you need to be eating that? : fixations on food and weight Watch your back with your closest girlfriends : underestimating female friendships My boyfriends weren't like that : sex and love : approaches to romance Are you sure you can manage work and school? : minimizing self esteem, independence, personal authority Work hard until it isn't necessary : sending mixed messages about achievement and ambition Of course we're just like the Brady Bunch : how family life today confuses our daughters Conclusion: lessons learned