I wish I had known That being in love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful marriage That romantic love has two stages That the saying : "like mother, like daughter" and "like father, like son" is not a myth How to solve disagreements without arguing That apologizing is a sign of strength That forgiveness is not a feeling That toilets are not self-cleaning That we needed a plan for handling our money That mutual sexual fulfillment is not automatic That I was marrying into a family That spirituality is not to be equated with "going to church." That personality profoundly influences behavior