Prologue: How to love like you mean it What's a love style? Why you love the way you do Uncovering your personal love style The four love styles Leader : the take-charge spouse Optimist : the encouraging spouse Validator : the devoted spouse Eevaluator : the careful spouse Putting your love styles to work for you If you're married to a leader If you're married to an optimist If you're married to a validator If you're married to an evaluator Epilogue: Getting the love you want